Why You Should Say Nice Stuff About Your Sweetie
Do you speak fondly about your partner?
It matters how you talk about your sweetie when you’re not together. This is not about bragging or painting a falsely perfect picture; rather it’s about nurturing your relationship by expressing appreciation in an authentic way.
It’s normal to complain about your partner or your relationship at times.
You need to be able to vent or get advice from a person you trust, like a close friend or a therapist. Sometimes complaining about your partner is an easy way to get a laugh or bond with a friend, but it’s also important to mention the fabulous things about your partner.
Let’s say someone asks you how things are going with your partner. You have a huge set of choices of where you’ll focus your answer. Humans have a negativity bias. Our minds will often land on something negative first. It can take work to guide your mind to the positive stuff.
The way you talk impacts the way you think about your partner.
Whenever you talk about your relationship, you choose what part of your experience you’ll emphasize. Those thoughts and feelings that you emphasize over and over become habits of thought. The things you emphasize get bigger in your mind, and the things you don’t talk about fade into the background. You can choose to make your partner’s positive qualities a bigger part of your experience.
The way you talk impacts the ways others think about your partner.
Of course it matters more what YOU think of your partner than what anyone else thinks. Still, as you talk to your friends, they create a picture of your relationship. You can help them create a balanced picture that includes the best things about your partner. This helps your friends feel invested in your relationship. If you find yourself in a difficult time in your relationship and need advice, your friends can remind you of that positive stuff about your partner.
