When The Unexpected Comes Up In Premarital Counseling

We’ve been providing premarital counseling to couples in the San Francisco Bay Area for a long time. We now work with folks from all over California. Unexpected things often come up in premarital counseling. That’s OK. In fact, it’s good. We help partners work through some important issues like:

• combining finances and/or creating financial priorities

• preparing for parenting

• finding shared values and compromising where values differ

• negotiating issues with in-laws and friends

• establishing career-life balance as a couple

• choosing a religious or spiritual path together or separately (or not at all)

• nurturing your monogamous or non-monogamous relationship

We’ve helped so many couples through these issues that we know how to keep difficult conversations constructive. Sometimes both members of a couple hear things that they hadn’t expected.

With the help of an experienced couples therapist, the unexpected doesn’t have to become a disaster.  

When you get everything out on the table, you’ve got a chance to work through them before they become conflicts.

The alternative is not so great.

Avoiding potential conflict tends to lead to BIG conflict later.

Wouldn’t you rather know NOW rather than later that your future spouse plans to have your mother-in-law move in 10 years from now? Or that one of you is set on public schools and the other is set on private? OR that one of you dreams of moving to the country and the other is set on staying in San Francisco? Or that the love of your life has another 20,000 of debt he didn’t mention?

Now is the best time to hear what you don’t expect.

Your couples therapist knows how to help you both listen and stay compassionate. There’s very little that a committed couple can’t handle with some help. Whatever issue you are facing, we’ve probably helped many other couples work through something similar.

Premarital Counseling is an important investment in your life-long relationship. To find out how we can help, set up a free phone consultation or call/text us at 510-826-3359.